Lonely Weekend?

Hi everyone,

Another week has come and gone and many of us are facing another lonely weekend -- even if you're 'with' someone, you know you can still feel very, very alone. Especially if your relationship isn't satisfying or if it's filled with conflict.

A recent breakup or falling out can be devastating and can make you feel isolated, frightened and vulnerable -- whether your a guy or a gal.  Humans, despite recent popular advice, are designed to be with other people, and in close, interdependent relationships.

Meaning, all that hype about 'creating your own self-sufficient life' and 'being independent and therefore attractive' is somehow deceptive.

You see, especially after a divorce or breakup, designing a completely independent life can serve to SABOTAGE your attempts at finding love.

Often moving out of that apartment and buying our own home, can actually isolate you, burden you with non-negotiable bills and responsibility and be a real roadblock when it comes to merging your life easily with someone else's life.

I know because I've been there. I've followed all that advice and ended up just where I DIDN'T want to be; saddled with a mortgage and all the burdens of home maintenance and moving far from family and friends (because I couldn't afford anything near where my apartment had been), on a new strict budget which pretty much eliminated fun times out, and worse eroded my support systems.

I'd thought that 'not waiting for love' and buying a home and building a life crammed with activity would magically draw my dream love to me. Instead I got a nightmare of isolation and bills.

I'd love to hear YOUR experiences and feedback on this idea.

In the meantime, check out this relationship resource that has been getting really good reviews and tell me what you think. If your marriage or relationship is in trouble, this might help,   and to get back into the dating game, check out these great dating-tips!

So you soon!

Cathy